Don’t Neglect Abuses, Let’s Talk About It

By Smita Talukdar

Despite being one of the least spoken about subjects, it is one of the most commonly faced problems by people all across the world.

It is sad that we have to talk about abuses, but they happen everywhere and to everyone. Some people think that it won’t happen to them or that they can handle the situation themselves, but usually, they can’t. That’s why it’s important to talk about abuses and what you should do if you’re experiencing one or know someone who is.

Talking about abuses is not an easy thing to do, but it is something that we need to do. We need to talk about the abuse that we have seen, the abuse that we have experienced, and the abuse that we know is happening. We need to break the silence.

When I picked this topic, I wasn’t really sure what to expect. It’s a pretty heavy topic that a lot of people shy away from. The thing is, though, we can’t just sweep it under the rug and hope it goes away. We need to talk about it. And that’s why I’m writing this article. I’m not going to sugarcoat anything — abuse is a terrible thing. It can leave long-lasting psychological and emotional scars on its victims, scars that often lead to a hindrance in having a regular life.

But before we dive further into the topic, we need to understand what is considered abuse at all.

What is abuse? And what are the different types of it?

Abuse is a pattern of behaviour in which one person uses power and control to hurt, intimidate, or frighten another person. It is a very serious issue that can have life-long consequences for the victim. Abuse can take many different forms, including physical, emotional, sexual, or financial abuse. It can also incorporate neglect. That is when the abuser fails to provide the necessary care for the victim. Abuse can include threats, isolation, and intimidation. It can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, or race. It is important to be aware of the signs of abuse and to know where to find help if you or someone you know is being abused.

Signs that someone is being abused

Abuse is a serious issue that often goes unrecognized. It can be difficult to determine when someone is being abused, but there are some signs to look for. If you suspect someone you know is being abused, it is important to reach out and offer help.

Some common signs of abuse include:

  • The person seems withdrawn or depressed.
  • The person has unexplained injuries.
  • The person is constantly anxious or stressed.
  • The person avoids social situations.
  • The person has low self-esteem.
  • The person is always very apologetic and seems to always be taking the blame for everything.
  • The person has a lot of fear. They may be afraid of their partner, scared to leave them, or fearful of what will happen if they do leave.

How can we prevent these abuses from happening?

There are many ways that we can prevent abuses from happening. We need to have strong laws in place that protect people from being abused. We also need to have a reliable system of enforcement so that the laws can be properly carried out. We need to make sure that people who are abused have a way to get help and be protected.

But some of the most feasible steps for preventing abuses are:

  • Educating people about the issue and what they can do to help
  • Having a system in place to report any abuse witnessed
  • Providing support to victims of abuse
  • Putting laws in place to protect people from abuse

What are the consequences of allowing these abuses to continue?

The consequences of allowing these abuses to continue are vast and impact many different aspects of our lives. The most obvious is that the abuser will continue to abuse. The cycle of abuse will likely continue and may even get worse.

Besides, the victims of these abuses suffer greatly. The victim may also feel like they are at fault or that the abuse is their fault.

They may feel like they can’t do anything to stop the abuse. And this can lead to feelings of hopelessness, depression, and anxiety. They may experience physical, emotional, and psychological injuries that can last a lifetime.

As depicted in the novel “Stop. No!” victims may have difficulty functioning in society and struggle in personal relationships.

Another consequence is that the abuser often gets away with the abuse. That can send the message that abuse is acceptable or that it is not a big deal.

It can also make it more likely for the abuser to abuse again. Abusers also often use their power to take advantage of others, sexually or otherwise. That can lead to the spread of diseases.

In addition to the personal toll these abuses take on individuals and families, there are also serious consequences for society entirely. When those in positions of power abuse their power, it undermines our trust in institutions and erodes the public’s faith in justice.

Finally, allowing abuses to continue can have a ripple effect. It can lead to other forms of violence.

How to help someone who is being abused?

If you know someone who is being abused, there are ways that you can help. It is important to understand that abuse is never the victim’s fault. The abuser is always responsible for their own actions. There are many different types of abuse, including physical, emotional, sexual, and financial. If you are worried about someone, try to know them and their situation better. That can be difficult, as the abuser may try to keep you away from the victim.

If you are worried about someone you know, there are some things you can do to help.

Talk to the person. Let them know you are there for them and that they can talk to you about what is happening.

Encourage the person to seek professional help. There are many people who can help, and it is important to get proper support.

Help the person create a safety plan. It can include ensuring things like having a friend stay with them when the abuser is around, having a safe place to go, and having money saved up in case they need to leave.

If you think the person is in danger, you should contact a local abuse helpline or the police.

What steps can you take to protect yourself from abuse?

Be aware of the types of abuse and start recognizing the signs of abuse in situations. Don’t be afraid to walk away from an abusive situation or seek help.


We have thus far discussed the problem of abuse and how to spot it. Abuse can take many forms, and it is often difficult to identify. But it is essential to be knowledgeable of it to be able to protect oneself and their loved ones too. If you are concerned that someone you know is undergoing abuse, please reach out for help.

You can also read the fictional novel Stop. No! based on true stories of abuse and learn how being ignorant of such a pressing issue or avoiding seeing it in your surrounding can destroy lives.